I wish I could be one of those individuals who can blog on a daily basis and post something on Facebook without a care in the world as to whether or not people respond—positively or negatively. But I am not. I actually become more energized and motivated to engage in the virtual world when I see people paying attention to the things I write about, and/or the things I find important enough to post, through their “likes,” comments and inquiries. Plus, these types of online interactions don’t carry the risk of unnecessary exchanged pleasantries and platitudes that can occur with daily face-to-face dialogues.
As a person who relies on receiving responses, I couldn’t help but notice the dearth of feedback when I recently posted blogs on May as Matriarch’s Month: a month that honors the amazing unknown “matriarchs” who have fearlessly carved paths for women who may have otherwise not have had their own sense of freedom.
I definitely have written blogs that didn’t precipitate much of a response. So why did I notice the lack of responses to the two recent blogs, in particular? The answer may lie in the several responses to a YouTube video I posted this past Sunday, of an incredible young woman named Lizzie Velasquez. Lizzie shares her story through index cards that hide her face from the camera. On each of the cards are a few sentences (which look like they were handwritten by Lizzie) describing her harrowing journey thus far, and her hopes and dreams for the future. Even at the end of the video, when Lizzie finally reveals her face that explains the torture she has endured since she was a little girl, it’s her handwriting on the index cards that captivates the viewer.
I was so awestruck by Lizzie’s courage to share her narrative with the world on YouTube, that I decided to post it on my Facebook timeline. And within 12 hours, nine people responded. Not that I am surprised. Lizzie’s story is humanizing, enlightening and humbling. But why were there so many immediate responses to this particular post and not so many responses to my other post where I had asked the simple question, “Whom would you consider to be a matriarch?”
I don’t know exactly how to answer the question except, perhaps my Facebook friends and I root for the underdogs of this world. And little Miss Lizzie is certainly an underdog. Maybe, Lizzie will have the wonderful opportunity to became a matriarch herself, and have women write about her amazing feats in life has an underdog.
So, here is another question: If you could not conjure up a list of matriarchs to share, who is a female underdog you would like to champion? And does she have the qualifications to be a matriarch? If so, why?
And yes, thank you Lizzie for sharing your story. You may only be a 23-year-old woman who has many years to live before becoming a matriarch, but after what you have shared with the world, you are not only an underdog, you are an inspiration and exemplar of fortytude.